So a (very generic) example would be: “Hey, you seem like you’re cool and I wanted to say “hey.” So… Hope to talk to you soon, YOUR_NAME” Give it a somewhat offbeat subject line in order to stand out from the crowd – I’ve always had success with “Pirates are inherently cooler than ninjas” – and send it on its way. If you’re not the most assertive or confident person, you may not feel comfortable asking somebody out on a date early on.
I’m a big believer in efficiency when it comes to dating. Y’see, online dating can seem for folks, especially people who have a touch of approach anxiety or hate the bar and club scene but don’t necessarily want to try hitting up strangers at Barnes and Noble.
The structure is simple: Greeting, a little about what it is about them from their profile that you like, a question to prompt a response, a little bit about you, and then “I hope to talk to you soon.” Two or three lines for each section. But I have to know: what’s your ultimate escape from the world when you need a release? I’m always looking for a potential partner in crime…
Feel free to write out the “about me” section in advance; it’ll save you time in the long-run and it allows you to fine-tune it rather than hitting “send” and then kicking yourself because you realized you could’ve said something wittier. If you had a chance, what would you do to wind down after a long week? A little about me: I’m $AWESOME_ATTRIBUTES_X, Y and Z… Like I said: you seem like you’re a really interesting person and I’d love to get to know you.
If you ask and she says “yes”, then congratulations! If she says “not yet,” but suggests maybe another time soon?
She’s still interested but needs a little more time to be comfortable. Cool, you don’t need to waste any more time with her; move on and find someone who interested in them, odds are that somebody else is too…
A reader wrote in asking if it is worth his time to send a second email when a woman didn’t respond to his first.