So while thinking about or dabbling in this grown up part of life is normal, you may consider counseling if your child is habitually experimenting with relationships at a young age.
Regardless of your rules around dating, it will help if you empathize with this need for assurance and acceptance, realizing it’s not necessarily a sign of long-term insecurity but a normal phase of personal growth development.
Spring has sprung and love is in the air – even if you’re in middle school. If you’re the parent of a middle schooler and the topic of dating has come up, it probably left you fretting over questions like these: - What does dating so young say about my child’s personality in the long run?
- What if my child starts on a path toward physical intimacy?
Keeping a neutral expression while you talk will help tremendously. While you have a web of questions in your head about young dating, most of the decisions I see middle schoolers make relate back to just one question: This isn’t a philosophical question.What if he or she isn’t mature enough to know how to say no?- What if the emotional side of dating scars my child or sets them up for future bad relationships?If your child wants to date in middle school, it probably has less to do with partnership, and more to do with searching for an answer to the persistent question: “Am I the type of person someone could like? You may draw a hard line against dating, but in middle school, kids can be more attracted to both people and things their parents prohibit.It’s hard to say you can’t spend time with a certain person, especially when that person is with your child for eight unsupervised hours a day at school.
- What if my child gets a bad reputation for dating early?